Thursday, June 26, 2008
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Life...summer....doctors appts.
Hi..i started this post on June 14th...I am just getting back to it!
Hi! Today was the kids last day of school. Needless to say they are very happy! Shanay and Jess are thrilled because they now have texting back on their cell phones...oh, the little joys in the life of a teenager.
I can honestly say things are going really well with the boys. They seem as if they have been here forever. Honestly, there were a few days about a week after they were home that I was overwhelmed and tired and had a bit of post-partum adoption. I thought i should be SOOO Happy...but i was depressed. I wondered what we had done...what a huge responsibility we have taken on...we CHOSE this. But in all actuality, GOD chose this. What sacrifice is too big for these little guys? TJ now seemed so big to us...i was mourning his growing up. I was sick. I was exhausted. Everytime I would look at Todd and ask him if he was worried or if he still thought it was a good idea he said he didn't doubt it one bit. That helped. Praying helped.
OBEDIENCE: We have been working so hard on teaching Markenley obedience. He is really getting it. The first few weeks when he would 'throw a fit' or not come when i told him to and i tried to get him to do something i asked I would just hold him. He would CRY and tense his body. I would hold him like a baby and just pray for him (this was not easy...he is pretty strong..by the end of the day my arms and hands would hurt. At first this was about 20 minutes or so. Then he would relax his whole body, and instead of yelling Daddy, or whatever he was saying in Creole...he would start saying Mommy. He would hold me and love me. Then I could talk to him and he would listen and obey. We would celebrate! :) I feel like i am being pretty tough on him expecting immediate obedience...but when we aren't going through that we are having so much fun and giving him LOTS of love!! Now if he has those times they are much quicker.
Solomon's discipline: Solomon is doing pretty good...a little love bug. His biggest issue is when he gets mad he will hit and spit. This breaks my heart. I feel that is his orphange survival skill. This is when i pull him close, pray for him and put my finger on his lips and then give him lots of smooches on his lips to show him what his lips are for!
BEDTIME: This was horrible for a while. We started off laying with them until they were asleep. This was fine until Solomon took hours. At first he wouldn't go in his crib. He would ball his head off and hold out his arms for me. One day when Todd and Taylor were putting the boys down Taylor layed him in his crib and he went right to sleep. HMMMM obviously he could do it. For the next few nights i had todd put him to bed. So, we transitioned to laying with Markenley while Solomon was in his crib. Then we decided to try to leave the room before they fell asleep. Markenley was fine if we reassured him that we would be in the other room and we would be there when they woke up. Solomon likes to stand up and give lots of kisses. Well now we do their routine, bath, jammies, massage, storytime, prayers...give more snuggles, reassure them...tuck them in and then leave the room. The last couple nights Markenley would tell me "Night night Mommy, I love you so much". It was so adorable. Life is easier now that naptime/bedtime isn't taking hours. I need this time with my other kiddos.
DOCTORS APPT: They had their physicals. Their bloodwork came back good...except...They are both enemic...they need to be put on extra iron 3 times a day for 6 months.
Their lead levels are HIGH. Markenley's was 6.7 and i guess 10 used to be ok but now the level that is good is 0-2. They aren't going to do the treatment because the side effects aren't good.
I guess high lead levels can cause your IQ to be lower than it would normally, possibly problems concentrating, etc.
Markenley also has Giardia, and his TB test came back positive..but the chest x-ray came back negative so he doesn't have TB but was obviously exposed to it. He has to take a pill everyday at the same time, on an empty stomach, for 9 months!
The boys had their first dentist appts. and they were perfect for the dentist. Markenley has 4 cavities and Soly has none.
June 26th now...
We celebrated Solomon's 2nd birthday on the 22nd at 2:22 (get it??? 2's!!) We had tons of people and it was fun. Tomorrow is his actual birthday!
I will update you more later...
love,
renee
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Wednesday, June 04, 2008
Daddy come right back?
I can hardly believe that the boys have been home for 3 weeks. Wow, time flies now!! We are really enjoying having our family together. We continue to grow together daily and are trying to get a bit of a routine.
Markenley is a sweet heart and is such a helper. If we are bringing in groceries he will go out and help. When there is dirty laundry on the floor he will pick it up and put it in the laundry basket. He is doing well with his siblings as well. We seem to be growing daily in our 'attachment'. We are also making time to spend with our other children as well. They are super great helpers.
Markenley seems to learn quickly. When he does have a meltdown I will just hold him and let him cry and scream. There were times that would be 20 minutes long. Now he will calm down much quicker and then say sorry, or whatever i tell him to say, i will offer words of love and then explain to him what needs to be done...holding my hand in the store, or whatever it may be.
He seems to get the phrase "Daddy come right back!" and that makes him content to let Todd leave. When Todd is gone he will say this from time to time as to re-assure himself.
Solomon is hysterical. He is a little minicker. Today Markenley was doing somersaults on my bed..he would say "1, 2, 3 and then do the somersault." Immediatly after Solomon would say "1, 2. 3 " and then throw himself down face first..as if he was doing a somersault.
The boys discovered barbies yesterday and have been having fun doing their hair!
I appreciate all the well wishes and wonderful comments!
love to you all,
Renee
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Wednesday, May 28, 2008
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
ice cream at the ball game
He wanted to taste sisters ice cream!!
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Patience, pee pee, and sleeping
Through the whole adoption process I felt the Lord teaching me trust and patience. I feel that now even though the boys are home that still seems to be what i daily pray for. As a Mommy waiting for her kids and praying for them as they are being cared for in an orphanage my heart ached for them. Now that they are home my heart aches for their hearts to be healed. Praying that daily we are doing what is right for them to help with attachment, for them to be secure. As I write this Solomon is playing very sweetly with Jessica and laughing and kissing her...how sweet he is.
On Monday we were at Todd's softball game and Markenley had to go pee pee...there was no bathroom...I figured we would run to the nearest tree...that's what all the boys on TJ's team do. I didn't know how i was going to communicate this to him with my limited Creole. Just then Zach who is a little younger than Markenley heard that we were going to pee and he had to go too! GREAT!!! I had Zach show Markenley how to pee on the tree. I kinda wondered how I would stop this from being a normal thing for Markenley to do. Later that night we were at Safeway and I see Markenley standing up next to a cardboard display saying 'pee pee' looking as if he is going to try to go there...EEEKKKK ..Todd grabbed him and ran to the bathroom. Sheesh....I don't know what I would have done had he gone in the middle of the aisle in Safeway. I need to learn more Creole!!
Last night Solomon refused to go to sleep. I had layed with him for like an hour. It was so hard because as much as I love that time with the boys, I was feeling extremely guilty because I wanted to be downstairs with TJ helping him with his solar system project. Oh the Mommy guilt was building up! TJ is an extremely wonderful brother but he still needs me too.
I decided just to get him up and go help TJ. Solomon was being hysterically funny. He did not seem tired at all. He played and was being goofy as we made an awesome solar system. Later when we went to bed Solomon was sleeping in between Todd and I. He would, in the dark, go over to todd and kiss him, then to me..smooch smooch smooch. Finally I turned to my side and my back was to him. He would tap me and then I would turn to look at him and he would kiss me and then push my head back down..over and over. It was adorable.
I wonder how they were put to bed in the O. Markenley wants to lay on top of todd or I. He falls asleep pretty fast, but if i try to move from the bed when he is still awake he will pull me back to him.
I have read that leaving the room after they fall asleep will only cause anxiety and they will have a hard time falling asleep the other nights. hmmm...could this be why Solomon won't fall asleep as easily, or is there just too much excitement? Or is it because he is a Dunn and the Dunn kids are all night owls?? Solomon used to let his sisters snuggle him during nap time occasionally....as of last night it is only Mommy.
I can honestly say that I feel as if Solomon has been here forever. Markenley is still learning to trust, he is doing good though. He is a funny character, he loves to laugh. We are still trying to figure out the hair...it will need to be re-done soon. A doctor and receptionist both thought he was a girl today....hmmm...what to do. Will Markenley even let me spend that much time on his hair? Everyday I make sure I rub his hair and tell him how much I love it and want to take care of him. We'll see.
love you all.
Posted by Renee at 10:02 PM 6 comments
Monday, May 19, 2008
Bonding!
Ok, the big kids are at school and the two little ones are napping! I have a cold so i feel yucky!
Overall things are going well. The first few days were a blur and I did a lot of worrying about the boys hearts and attachment...but each day brings us all closer. Markenley is a daddy's boy and Solomon is a mommy's boy. Yesterday at church was hard. Todd had to be play and sing during the service and Markenley wanted Daddy. First service I spent holding Markenley in Todd's office while he screamed and yelled for Daddy. After about 20 minutes he calmed down, rested in my arms and even went in the sling. I held him for a while and he was content and then was happy to see Daddy. During the second service he did the same. He does calm down and then we have a special bonding moment. Todd and I have made a concious effort to swap kiddos and he does the after bath massage with Soly and I do the same with Markenley. Putting them to bed is a special time of bonding too. Last night our family walked around the block and Soly was being pushed in his stroller and I held Markenley the whole time...he had a water bottle and each flower we passed he gave a drink of water. The closeness we shared was wonderful. Each day promotes new memories and bonding. We are constantly in awe that they are actually here. Each day also brings new challenges of teaching them...like getting little Soly to not throw his cup, not hit, or spit. He is a super sweet little boy, but when he doesn't like something he will tell you! I have seen that in the toddler room at the orphanage...the clawing and scratching of sweet little kids to get back their prized possession. We don't get upset at them because they don't know any better. These little ones have gone through far more in their little lives than we can ever imagine. We are thanking God that they are here, they are safe and they are loved. Our older kids are doing great with the boys too. They are a huge help and also very understanding of the need for them to bond with Mom and Dad. My little TJ seems so big to us and that is sad!!
Love to you all!
Renee
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Saturday, May 17, 2008
Friday, May 16, 2008
Thursday, May 15, 2008
Home from Haiti..Is this real??
Well...we are home...with our sons. We are happy...we are tired! ;) It was an amazing trip. To see the way God orchestrated the final details was more than we could imagine. My dear friend Ann Marie has been such an encouragement to me the last few months. We spoke and emailed a lot. Our files entered at different times but the last few steps they were together...which is odd for Haiti :). To find out we had the same exact day and time for our Visa appointment was a huge blessing. We met in Miami and sat next to eachother flying into Haiti. That was something we dreamed of, and prayed for!
The day we left for Haiti Todd had to perform with our church group at a Festival in town, which he finished at 2pm...we had to run about 10 blocks to my friends Jen and Jeremy's van and rush to catch our 3:15 flight. We had already gotten our boarding passes that morning...but it was still SO stressful! We got to the airport with less than 50 minutes until our flight left. There was not one person in security and we got in and were even able to grab a bite to eat! Praise God.
So...we flew all night and got into Haiti at about 8 am on Mother's Day. The kids were brought to our hotel about 1 pm. What a gift. They did great! Solomon was very quiet at first but by that evening he had perked up. We had a nice Mother's Day dinner with Todd, Ann Marie and Francesca and our sons!!
Our Visa appointment was for Monday morning at 8 am. We arrived a little after 7 am. There was a very long line of Haitians...maybe 500.. waiting to get into the US Consulate. We were able to move to the front of the line, I am assuming that was because we were Americans and had an appointment.
We went in and met Madame Antoine....the lady I would call daily. She seemed so sweet. She smiled and said "oh, Mrs. Dunn.." she was very familiar with who i was!! Funny!
Then we met with Nancy McCarthy..she was very nice. I asked her if she thought that there could be any problems (meaning, do i need to stress until 2:30 when we would have to go back to get the Visa?). She said that it takes a while to get the appointment because they don't want people to come down and then run into issues, that is why they go over it all ahead of time. Our appointment was done before 8 am...our processor Kiki hadn't even shown up yet. He did meet us as we were going out. He is very nice and we were happy that we got to see him.
We went back to the hotel and then sat by the pool with Todd and Ann Marie and visited. A little later Pierre showed up with the kids birth parents. They stayed more than an hour...maybe 2. We had them tape video messages to the kids, while pierre translated.
Later we went swimming...because we were SOOOOO HOT!!! That was nice. Ann Marie and I went back to our rooms because we were exhausted and then our Todd's (yes, both of our hubby's are named Todd) went to pick up our Visa's!!!!!!
I was so tired but the boys were NOT! I could not get them to sleep!! A little while later Todd came back with the VISAS!!!! Yippppeee
Todd also told me that Pastor J was there to take us to see his orphanage. Pastor J is an awesome man of God in Haiti who helped us with our file when it was in MOI....he runs a orphanage with 50 boys and a school with 500 students. He is opening a medical clinic as well.
We grabbed the boys and off we went. It was a blessing to be able to spend time with him as well as see his ministry in action. When we got there a team from YWAM was there and Pastor J invited us to eat dinner with the team. We were so greatful.
Then we went back to the hotel and Todd and I put the boys to sleep and then packed our stuff!! We couldn't believe we got to take our boys home !!
The next day we were off. The flight from Haiti to Miami Soly slept and Markenley played. Then when we got to Miami we had a 4 hour layover because we heard immigration could take hours. Well...it took us (and Todd and Ann Marie) about 30 minutes!!
We both went to check to see if we could get an earlier flight home. Well...we both did!! It was sad to say goodbye to them!! So, we left at 2:30 Miami time and instead of flying to LA, with a 2 hour layover, we flew straight to SF. That meant we got into SF at 5:30 CA time instead of 10:20. It was a 6 hour flight. The boys did awesome!! We were so proud of them.
Jen picked us up from the airport and we got home and the kids were super excited. They kept hugging me saying "is this real?"
That night was crazy with lots of neighbors and friends coming by. But it was good. Markenley had a blast playing ball with the kids on the lawn. Soly did too.
That night we were going to have the boys sleep in our room but Markenley wanted to sleep in his new bed! TJ ended up sleeping with him part of the night. Soly slept with us.
I will post more about the adjustment later...must go to sleep!!
love you all!
Renee
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Thursday, May 08, 2008
PRAISE GOD!!!!!!!!
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Wednesday, May 07, 2008
Waiting/FAQ
Well...we are still waiting to find out what is going on with our file. It's frustrating to say the least. The Consulate doesn't really like to answer our emails..if they do, they are super vague..."Rest assured, we will contact your processor with the next step". First of all...can you at least answer my questions in my email?? Secondly, these are MY children...TELL ME TOO!! We are paying over $1300. for the Visa's you are supposed to be processing! Where is the customer service?? Aren't our taxes paying your salary?? Imagine being pregnant and the doctor telling some other person about your baby and telling you nothing!! We are trying to be patient..but the days keep passing by.
The reality is that they WILL be home...soon...or eventually. One of the questions I get asked quite often is "are you nervous/scared about the boys coming home?"
There are days when I honestly can say I am a bit nervous..a "what are we getting ourselves into kind of thought?"
Then I think of all God has done for us....His Sacrifice...how little we will be sacrificing for God's Children. Our whole family will have to sacrifice time, money, etc. But we will be gaining so much LOVE and JOY! All I have to do is look in their precious eyes in their pictures...then I also feel peace.
There is so much attachment therapy that we will have to do when the boys come home. We will not be able to parent these sweet little ones like we have been parenting our bio-children.
These boys have missed out on so much developmentally.
I can only imagine how they are going to feel coming home. We have been WAITING for them, but they haven't been waiting for us! This will truly be traumatic for them. New environment, new language, new people, new food, new smells, new rules, new EVERYTHING. They will surely grieve everything they 'lost'. Ya, to us this is BETTER, but to these sweet little ones, they cannot comprehend all this. It's hard enough for me to comprehend!
They do not know what a FAMILY is. So, for them to call me Mommy...they have no clue what that is. Todd and I will have to teach them to trust us. They will need to learn that we are here and will ALWAYS be here for them. They will need to learn their role as a sibling...grow to love their other siblings.
We completely feel that this was God's plan for our lives..who are we to argue with him?
This leads me to my next FAQ...will we adopt again?
Who knows?? Only God knows. I find it really hard to not do something. There are so many hurting and hungry people in the world. How can we ignore it? I could expand on this more..but I am super tired.
love to you all...
Renee
Posted by Renee at 9:40 PM 3 comments
Friday, May 02, 2008
Todays news...
Well I called the Consulate (during the one hour a day they allow you to call!)...and Kiki was there when I called turning in our paperwork. I was told they would review it all and then email Kiki...Soooo...please pray that it is all GOOD!! We really want our boys home for Mother's Day!! We can pray for that MIRACLE!! :) Another weekend...Sigh!
Love-
Renee
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Thursday, May 01, 2008
National Day of Prayer
What an amazing night we had, outside looking at the beautiful hills that our amazing God created. Singing praises to our Lord with our community. Hearing prayers from many other languages...all of them our God could understand even if I couldn't. Watching my daughter praise God with flags, while my other daughter sang and my VERY HANDSOME husband played the keyboard and sang. Next to me was my Jessibear and my wonderful friends Pam and Tara. It was altogether a wonderful night. We have so much to be thankful for, and I feel that lately I have been living in this adoption cocoon...and I realize I miss the world. I miss my friends!! I made a date with my dear friends Martha and Pammi to take our kids to get McFlurries and hang out at McDonalds tomorrow..and I can't wait!!!
My hubby gets to go to a men's retreat tomorrow with our church..he will be doing music. Please pray for an amazing weekend for the men as they draw closer to God and to one one another in fellowship!
Also....please pray...our adoption processor has an appointment tomorrow at the Consulate to turn in paperwork on behalf of Markenley, Solomon and Francesca, (my friends daughter). Please pray that all of our paperwork will be in order and my dear friend Ann Marie and I can travel to Haiti next week to pick up our kids!! Our investigation is already done, so hopefully we will not have any hold ups at the visa level...but so many people are...pray for the release of so kids waiting to go home.
TJ has opening night of Mulan Jr. tomorrow..I can't wait to see it! :)
Life is Good...because God is SO GOOD!
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Sunday, April 27, 2008
While I wait....
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Monday, April 14, 2008
April Update
We got our monthly update. It is bitter sweet..makes me miss them so much more, especially after hearing that Solomon graduated to the toddler room! He was 4 months old when we met him. I am sure praying that this is our last update!
We are praying for a miracle..VISAS!! Things seem to have calmed down in Haiti and the riots have seemed to stop for now. Praying that means the Consulate can get moved and we can get our Visa appt. Our file has been at the Consulate since Nov. so I am hoping that once they have our passports and original paperwork they will want the file out!! I love my boys sooo much!!

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Tuesday, April 08, 2008
Pray for Haiti
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Monday, April 07, 2008
OUR SONS HAVE PASSPORTS!!!
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Wednesday, April 02, 2008
Watercooler Wednesday
I am new to the Watercooler. Hi! I am here at the request of my husband. Here is my contribution for this week. We are in the midst of adopting Markenely(4) and Solomon(2) from Haiti. It's been a long journey, but we they are almost home. Praise God! Here is the Fam.
Go here to check out the other entries. Maybe you can win an iPod. Good luck!
http://randyelrod.typepad.com/ethos/2008/04/watercooler-wed.html
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Sunday, March 30, 2008
Prayers...Pretty Please!!
There is this amazing couple who's blog I have been reading for a while. They are Tricia and Nate. http://cfhusband.blogspot.com/
Tricia has Cystic Fibrosis and is waiting to get a double lung transplant. This may happen tomorrow. They also have the cutest baby who's was born very early...amazing...please check out their blog and pray for a miracle that we know God can do. My heart is also breaking for the family who just lost a love one who's lung Tricia may receive. I am reminded of the song..Blessed be your name, the verse that says "he gives and takes away".
Love to all,
Renee
Posted by Renee at 11:36 PM 1 comments
Friday, March 28, 2008
Praising GOD!!
We are out of MOI!!!! Officially! We just got the E-mail.
Now we are just waiting for Passports and Visas. We are so very close. Our
boys are coming soon. Please continue to pray for a quick process. But this
is awesome news! Thank you for all of your support! Blessings!
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Wednesday, March 19, 2008
prayer request
We would like to ask for prayer for the files sitting in MOI waiting to be signed by the director and sent to immigration! Ours is one of them, along with some other good friends files. We are also praying for the next steps to move quickly..passports and visas!! :) Our boys have been waiting for so long...our family has been on this adoption journey for more than 3 years and we are weary, we are ready for them to be HOME, in our arms, being loved by US!!! We are anxious to hold them, read to them, tell them how treasured they are by us and by GOD. We know that each child that comes home is only by the GRACE and MERCY and STRENGTH of GOD. I am praising God for gift of these amazingly sweet boys. I look forward to the MIRACULOUS day when the boys will be here with us. What a day of rejoicing.
love you all...
Renee :)
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TjTv
So, ya...tj borrowed our video camera and this is what he did...by the way, turbo jam is really a good workout and beachbody.com is where i have gotten a lot of my workout videos..he is so funny! You never know what he will come up with!!
And...he doesn't play football on the Milpitas Knights, although he is dying for me to say yes to him playing football, not sure if that's going to happen!!
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Wednesday, March 12, 2008
blessed...
I have been feeling in a funk lately...the adoption waiting funk...in my time of reflecting I have to share how blessed I am. I am married to the sweetest, kindest, handsomest :) man. He loves me, loves our children and loves God with his whole heart and life.
He lets me be in my moods...tries to help me climb out of them...helps me see the good in life. I am so thankful to our Lord for allowing me to marry this amazing man. I love him so much. Sometimes i am too focused on my little world..i hate that about myself. I believe God is working on me in that area.
I love you honey, more than you know.
You are the bestest!!
XOXO
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Tuesday, March 11, 2008
UGGGHHHHHHHHHH
I am soooo irritated...today i really DISLIKE a certain HIGH SCHOOL BOY!!!! This is one that my sweet daughter likes...he should feel blessed that she likes him and she keeps giving him chances and he keeps breaking her heart. She says he just doesn't know how to treat a girl and this is all making her stronger. She called me from school today and I only had a minute to talk to her but now I am mad and sad and UGGHHH. I know that I will have 3 high school boys and my goal is to teach them to 'not break girls hearts!!'
BOYS!!!
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Monday, March 10, 2008
Sunday, March 09, 2008
Jessica singing WHY
This is one of my favorite songs, and it is even better with my beautiful daughter Jessica singing it and my hubby playing piano!
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TAYLOR
Compassionate, Caring and SPUNKY
Taylor is growing up! This past week she kept her room clean all week..because now it is her office! She is an Event Coordinator. She made a posterboard with wedding ideas, birthday party ideas etc. It is adorable. She got her first event to plan...i 'hired' her to help plan Solomon's 2nd birthday party. His party is on June 22...so, he better be home!
I really have seen signs of maturity and self control. She still has her innocent side, she played all weekend with the neighbor girls..they played house and dolls. We are proud of our Tay Tay.
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Thursday, March 06, 2008
AWESOME VIDEO!!
I found this video on another blog...amazing & inspiring.
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